Psychopaths can be deceiving and detecting a psychopath at a glance is often difficult to do. Psychopaths can be good looking, charming, and seemingly "normal" people but they have the potential to be extremely harmful, or even deadly. Once the sweet surface of the psycho is scratched however, a revealing look at personality disorders presents in ways too obvious to deny. A psychopath is impulsive, irresponsible, shallow, and has a distorted ego. Psychopaths lack any concern for truth and others, have little empathy, and conduct themselves with strongly amoral, often deviant, actions. Psychopaths are deficient with their interpersonal relationships and often have little tact, guilt, shame, or remorse for how their actions affect others. Psychopaths operate with very little genuine emotion, are insensitive, coldly impervious, and contemptuous.
Researcher Robert Hare created the Psychopathy Checklist used to diagnose the "intraspecies predators" known as psychopaths. Hare defines psychopaths as people who "use charisma, manipulation, intimidation, sexual intercourse and violence...[while] lacking in conscience and empathy [to do] what they want and do as they please, violating social norms and expectations without guilt or remorse." Psychopaths can be destructive and devastating, even for the most qualified and grounded individuals. Some in fact, can use therapy to hone their "skills," as Hare states: "What is missing, in other words, are the very qualities that allow a human being to live in social harmony."
There is no cure or course of treatment for a psychopath, so it's best to generally avoid them if you encounter one. Here are the 10 Signs Your Girlfriend (Or Boyfriend) is a CRAZY Psychopath:
1. Multiple Cat Ownership
Nothing says bat sh*t crazy faster than a pair or more felines greeting you when you go to her place. Get out before you're covered in scratches and hissy fits. Same rules apply for men who own cats...just be sure to run faster.
2. Random Drop-ins or Stoop Sits
If she (or he) stops in frequently, unannounced, or whenever she's "driving by," chances are you've encountered a psycho. If she (or he) is waiting for you when you get home from work or a night on the town, she's crazy. Kick her (or him) to the curb.
3. Your Friends Get "Boomtown" Rides
If she (or he) has sex with your friends, chances are she's not the type you'd want to have a sexual or romantic relationship with. The honor system of "Bros before hos" and "Don't cross swords" applies for girls and guys. Ensure no psychos land in your bed or heart and don't break the honor code.
4. Incessant Texts
"Where are you?" "Whatcha doing?" "Who are you with?" "What's going on?" "How are you today?" Technology has decreased the ability to be unaccountable. If the person you're seeing constantly bombards you with texts, it's a good indicator of their lack of sanity. Remember the fine line between attention and harassment. If the texts don't stop after your request to, contact the authorities.
5. The Ex Factor
If she (or he) does the unthinkable: she calls, seeks out, or talks to your ex, she's not an okay candidate for another minute of your future. Your ex is your ex for a reason. Stay away from that trouble and anyone who invites it into your present.
If the person you're dating has a fit any time you need "me" time to hang with the guys, be a couch potato, or just do your thing, chances are great she's (or he's) nuts. If she throws a fit when you say you're going to hang out with your friends, rather than her, she's out of her mind. Walk away slowly. And don't look back.
7. I love you
Women (or men) who declare their love for you with those three magic words in a very short amount of time are one beer short of a six pack, obviously manipulative, and just plan dependent. Love takes time.
8. Maid Service
Any woman you hardly know who is more than willing to scrub your "castle," prepare your meals, or otherwise do your bidding, is not fit to be your queen. She's screamingly dependent and needing to be needed. Don't go there. End of discussion.
Remember the vain Greek who loved his reflection so much he fell into a pond? Be forewarned if your new squeeze is obsessed with her appearance. Everything that glitters is not gold. And anything that glitters all of the time is an insecure, hot mess in need of medication.
Cleavage, booty, muscles, and skin are seemingly eye candy. Non crazy, good quality women don't show off more than one sexy part at a time and those who do are just plain sleazy (albeit attention getting.) Men with muscle enhancing wardrobes (think tank tops) generally are not entirely sane and just looking for attention. And attention seekers, despite gender, are large-scale crazy. Steer clear.
Finally, a quick online background check may be the easiest way to determine a psychopath as most have broken the law a time or ten. Always take the time to get to know someone but heed any red flags. And run for your life in order to avoid those who emit any of the above signs.