The condition that people pleasers possess is often mistaken for altruistic giving. Altruism, however, differs from the addiction that people pleasers have. Altruistic giving includes activities that promote a healthy emotional lifestyle such as volunteer work, service to a neighbor in need, and other acts of kindness to friends and family, and even strangers. On the other hand, people pleasers feel a constant need to serve others tirelessly, oftentimes at the expense of their health conditions.
People pleasers are psychologically and emotionally damaged in such a way that their outward behaviors reflect the opposite of what is going on inside of them. People pleasers generally display an outward show of friendliness, good organization skills and inner strength. However, in reality, these people have feelings of inadequacy and low self esteem. They feel the need to be constantly be liked and accepted by others, which can lead to overwork and over fatique, high blood pressure and even hear attacks as they look for ways to satisfy the addiction of pleasing others. Other physical and mental conditions these people pleasers possess are depression, emotional breakdown and increased levels of stress. The fear of displeasing others is a cause of constant anxiety.
People pleasers are often unhappy individuals who lack self confidence, and have a constant fear of rejection. They often view themselves as failures. The lack of self esteem of people pleasers often lead to a lack of trust in others, feelings of uselessness, and an actual inability to meet set objectives.